While listening to this clip, you will laugh, and perhaps cry. You will hear a testimony of a person who was emotionally injured, and who later found a positive reason to come out of her emotional protective shell, and reengage again.
Many relationship and social skills professionals mention the trend of: trauma, hurt, and rejection, followed by a person's spirit and emotions being crushed. This is usually followed by a person emotionally: locking up, closing up into an emotional protective shell. This can take many shades of expression depending on the severity of the emotional trauma. they can become shy and backward. They can become: aloof, and reticent, disengaged, reclusive. People can emotionally totally shut down, and shut off. They can even resolve never to feel again. "Feeling" is an emotion that they have decided is to be avoided at all cost.
Something very positive has to happen in their life to give them hope. To cause them to have a reason to come out of their reclusive, protective, emotional shell, and re-engage.
In the cases of very serious emotional and sometimes physical trauma, people can go into a sort of emotional survival mode. It seems as though they withdrawal from all considerations of others, empathy, and connection with others, and as a last ditch effort to avoid being totally emotionally destroyed, they focus solely on themselves, their needs, their desires. There is a psychological condition referred to as "detached," which refers to the most serious cases. Such people generally have little or no conscience, remorse, & empathy. No surprise, they generally are also narcissistic.
Books like "Daring Greatly" by Dr Brene Brown touch on this subject. On the topic of being emotionally closed up, feeling that at our core, we are not worthy, never enough. The resulting disengagement. Of a culture of real or perceived "Scarcity." Dr Brown encourages people to re-engage. She calls it "Vulnerability". A situation in which we are willing to: show up, to be seen, to participate, while being confident that we deserve to be loved, and that we do belong.
Many have heard the phrase "We are His [Jesus'] hands and His feet," referring to the idea of Jesus working through us. Christians have the responsibility to carry on Jesus' ministry, which is outlined in Isaiah 61:1 "...to preach good tidings unto the meek; He hath sent Me to bind up the brokenhearted, to proclaim liberty to the captives, and the opening of the prison to them that are bound..."
We Christians have been given the ministry of reconciliation. Our challenge is to find those who have been traumatized by life, and to help them become and to become FREE from behind the bars [emotional, and sometimes physical].
Sis Donna Linville's mother (with God's help, and that of a choir teacher), in this audio, was an example who modeled this ministry.
May this audio both touch your heart, and help you to model the ministry of reconciliation.