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if you're going to focus on x you have to stop doing less ofy or you have to give up ony and let someone else take care of it and that is a crucial distinction and set of decisions to make. related to that i think all of us as individuals in society have to understand life is about trade-offs. men understand this more naturally because they haven't been subject to the same massive shifts over the last few generations. if the man makes a major presentation at work tomorrow he is not going to play baseball with his kids tonight or mow the lawn. the more intuitively says that has got to wait, i got to do this could women tend to try to do it all. even if the next presentation is tomorrow they want to make sure the kitchen is clean before they go. i was talking with a tv producers this morning and confessed that before calling me to do this interview she spent an hour cleaning her kitchen before the housekeeper came. we all do this. we need to stop doing that. we also need to recognize that this is more provocative but i throw out, fairly big item in the book. we have to realize biology matt