then they would always look at me and say what do you think minyon? i agree with ben. but that's because we had set it up before we went in there. so you almost, i mean, even as an elected official, you count your votes. that's what auntie maxine used to take us. >> and i think the more successes you have, the more confidence you'll have. >> yeah. >> it builds. it grows with you. >> and i always tell people that i like to prepare myself. i mean, i read 5-7 newspapers. i get up in the morning, sometimes 3, 4 in the morning, i start with european newspaper, asian newspaper before i go to sleep, and by 6 or 7:00, i am well versed. and if then i give my, then i get the sports section. [laughter] but you have to be, you have to prepare yourself. >> yep. >> and if you're involved in politics, public service or even the media, you've got to be ready to get hit -- >> yep. >> -- but you better be ready to get back up. >> the last thing i'd add, sister, is once you know the room and you count your votes and you've prepared and got confidence, don't play it small. playing small d