there's one of this book that have maybe stirred more people to anger, jeremiah against denham. a chance to illustrate you can illustrate large things from small things. you go to an airport concourse and there's a father in his late 30s and his 10-year-old son and they are dressed exactly alike. running shoes, blue jeans, t-shirt. mom is there and she's wearing blue jeans i said there was a time when different dressed signal different stages of life if we grew up. [laughter] what does this have to do with larger themes? missed -- somewhere in the last 20 or 30 years, apparently came --w, parenting is important. it encourages the belief and parental perfectionism. if you do it right -- >> you think it's a new thing? >> i do. >> it's neurotic? [laughter] i want to go back. >> i was ten yearsas old i would open up the backyard has built out on a summer day free range parenting, it was called being a kid back in those days and you are free to fail, is called growing up morning how to cope with failure. today helicopter parents hover over their children from bubble wrapped children